Videogames are a great analogy for life. You go through levels, get thrown off by obstacles, and face several enemies. The game will become harder and harder, but it’s okay because you become smarter, faster, and more skilled. When playing a videogame, you control a character by making it jump, run, duck, and attack. I mean, that was back in my day when my Super Nintendo controller had two buttons. Today videogame controllers have as many buttons as a keyboard, so who knows what you can do. You can probably press A + Y + Z while twirling your left joystick and your character will sing the national anthem. Either way, the fact remains that your character is the only thing you can control in the game. The enemies will keep coming, the walls will keep shrinking, and the time will keep ticking away. It’s your job to navigate your character through a situation you cannot control. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 4
Not being able to control people and situations doesn’t make you powerless; it just means you have to exercise your power in a different way. If you can’t control people, then control your reaction to them. If you can’t control a situation, then prepare for it. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 4
Have you ever played a videogame, then lost because you realized you were looking at the wrong part of the screen the whole time? You were so confused as to why your controller wasn’t working, but really you were just trying to control the wrong character. That’s what trying to control people is like in real life. We’re so often fixated on getting people to behave in accordance with what we want that we forget to focus on ourselves. The best way to stop people from pushing your buttons is to start pushing your own. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 7
“Maybe they’re having a bad day.” Cheat Code One: Lilly, when people do or say hurtful things to you, there’s a chance they may actually be upset about something else in their life. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 12
“I don’t want to stop making videos, because they make me happy.” Cheat Code Three: Your happiness is stronger than fear. You can continue battling fear as long as your videos make you happy. Make sure you prioritize creating content that makes you happy; otherwise far and negativity will slowly take over. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 13
Conquering your thoughts is not a task that can be accomplished overnight, or over many nights, to be honest. It’s an ongoing process that requires frequent readjustment because your mind is constantly evolving. It requires you to ask yourself a lot of questions and to analyse the answers honestly. From now on start asking yourself WHY you feel a certain way, WHAT made you perform a certain action, and HOW you could do things differently. The information you discover is powerful because it helps you to discover patterns and in turn use your mind productively and efficiently. After all, your mind is your most powerful tool, but it’s not useful if you don’t know how to use it. It’s like trying to fix a printer with a stapler: it doesn’t work. Trust me, I’ve tried.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 13
So, what’s my point?
Daenerys didn’t obtain some dragon power one day by luck. She knew she had dragon blood within her all along, but she never told anyone until she could capitalize on that power. While she was being forced into marriage, beaten, and disrespected, she held on to the knowledge that she was the mighty Mother of Dragons. Daenerys kept her strengths and powers a secret from everyone, including her brother and husband, until it was the perfect moment for her to make her move. Had she disclosed her powers from the beginning, her brother might have tried killing her, people might have tried kidnapping her, and she probably wouldn’t have been gifted with dragon eggs (that’s be like giving thor a hammer and expecting him not to use it). Daenerys knew her own power and kept it a secret so that she could deploy that power as effectively as possible. And she uses this strategy repeatedly to get what she wants.
Long story short, if you’re selectively secretive, you might become a queen, have dragons, and get to sleep with a very sexy man named Khal Drogo who rides a horse - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 18
What I’m saying is you must think of yourself as a powerful fort. That’s how you should view your mind, body, and spirit. You should know all the entrances and secret passageways of your fort, aka your strengths, weaknesses, fears, etc. Feel free to welcome people into your fort for banquets or balls or whatever other fancy party you might have. But the more you tell people about your fort, the more information you reveal about the secret passageways, the weaker your fort becomes and the easier it is for people to attack you. The lesson being: don’t give away all your secrets or reveal all your vulnerabilities. Don’t trick yourself into believing that you are obligated to share everything with everyone. It’s up to you to decide what to reveal and when. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 18
However, putting yourself in uncomfortable situations is CRUCIAL to developing new skills and gaining valuable experience. I know Drake told you he went from “0 to 100 real quick,” but I promise you he went from 0 to 1 to 2 to 2.2 to 3. It was only after he put himself in a lot of uncomfortable situations that he finally hit 100. In fact, arly in his career, Drake got booed off stage in his hometown. (Sounds pretty uncomfortable. Also, who boos Drake?!) - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 22
I can confidently say that I’m skilled at making YouTube videos, and that’s only because I went through the horrifying experience of making my first ten videos. I went through the horrifying experience of making my first ten videos. I had to go through the awkward process of figuring out what works and what doesn’t. Although it was terrifying, if I hadn’t made those first ten videos, I would never have been able to make the 500 videos that are online today and that now have over 1 billion views combined. It’s easy to look back and see how far I’ve come, but it’s harder to remember that I need to keep pushing myself. If I know that stepping outside my comfort zone helped me become a YouTube success, then why am I so scared to do it again when auditioning for film roles?
Well, I answered my own question: because it’s scary! And sitting in a tense room reciting lines to a complete stranger isn’t exactly a comfortable situation. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 22
You have to seek out situations that make you uncomfortable and then throw yourself into them. That doesn’t mean risking your life by walking on the edge of a building - you don’t need to do everything that scares you or makes you uncomfortable. Instead, push yourself to do things that will help you reach your goal. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 23
I reminded myself that the first ten times I do anything, I’m horrible at it. BUT those first ten times are crucial in order for me to be successful the eleventh time (or a little better at it). It’s not about getting the role; it’s about doing the audition. And as long as I leave the audition without having spontaneously combusted, I will have succeeded. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 24
Think of discomfort as currency - it’s the price you pay to learn some pretty crucial things. Besides, the goal isn’t always the trophy. The goal can also be the stepping-stones - the bronze and silver medals that bring you closer to the gold.
Remember, on the path to success, fear and discomfort are only speed bumps. Don’t make them dead ends. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 25
Emotions can cloud your judgement and reduce productivity. That’s not my opinion; it’s a fact. A fact that I made up just now, but it’s probably 100% scientifically accurate.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 28
The thing is, I am not suggesting that you become mechanical and turn off your heart. I am suggesting that you train your brain to focus less on feelings and more on productivity when things need to get done. When you need to get your hustle on, be driven by goals, not emotions. When you’re working with a group and feel any type of negative emotion, ask yourself, “Does this emotion help get the task done?” If not, then put it away. Sometimes we get angry or annoyed at people we’re working with, and so we retaliate. Ask yourself again, does retaliation help get the task done? It’s a hard pill to swallow, but in the battle between pride versus productivity, sometimes you need to let your pride lose. It’s not about rights and wrongs when you have two hours left to capture four more hours of footage; it’s about getting it done. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 30
Basically, I believe in getting hurt efficiently.
This means that I thoroughly believe in crying, yelling, pulling my hair out, and experiencing heartache, BUT once I’m done I dissect the pain and learn lessons from it. Heartache is never going to go away and every person will continue to experience it. Not learning anything from pain because you are too overwhelmed with emotion is inefficient, especially since you’ll continue to encounter pain in life. When you get hurt, use that hurt as body armour for future battles. That doesn’t mean close yourself off and turn it an ice queen (or king); it simply means you should reason with yourself and try to remember that getting hurt today makes you more resilient tomorrow. Pain is good. Heartache is good. These things provide you with knowledge that will help you grow and deal with future struggles. To waste a painful moment and let emotion overwhelm you so much that you gain absolutely no insight is to get hurt inefficiently. Make every struggle count and remember that experience will always be a silver lining. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 31
Unfortunately, though, we don’t always follow our gut. Sometimes when we’re passionate about something or in some kind of bind, we tend to think a lot about the “what, where, when, how, and why” of the situation, to the point that it becomes unproductive. It happens to the best of us. Overthinking is a natural enemy of efficiency because it prevents us from getting things done. A Bawse should know when to take the time to think something through and when to simply make a quick decision. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 34
When it comes to creating my weekly YouTube content, I try my best not to overthink it. I could never make two videos a week if I sat at my desk and thought about every single frame, shot, and sentence over and over again. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 34
Humans have a tendency to over complicate simple things because we overthink them. But if you take a step back and remember your priorities, it becomes easier to make a decision. When you’re in these situations, I encourage you to ask yourself basic questions while keeping your priorities in mind. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 35
There seems to be this misconception that making mistakes makes you weak, or stupid, or somehow less of a person, but the truth is, making mistakes brings you one step closer to success. No one has the answer key to life and so when we want to accomplish anything, whether it’s learning a new braid or becoming a CEO of a marketing company, we must make mistakes along the way. It’s the only way we can learn what works and what doesn’t. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 40
If you’re making mistakes, you’re making the necessary moves to figuring it all out. If you think there are ten possible ways to do something and you just made a mistake, congratulations. You’ve just discovered that #4 doesn’t work. That’s progress. If you‘re not making mistakes, you’re not taking any steps toward accomplishing a goal. Mistakes. Are. Cool. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 40
Mistakes don’t exist just to make us feel bad about ourselves; they are opportunities that we should not ignore or shy away from. People pay thousands of dollars in tuition to learn lessons at university, while all the time mistakes are lingering around for free, ready to school us. The goal is to recognize our mistakes, learn from them, and try to prevent them in the future.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 40
Taking ownership of a mistake is like attending a class - it’s the only way you’ll learn something from it. If you cannot admit to a mistake, you’re skipping school and wasting your tuition. Owning up is difficult for a lot of people because it requires disarming defence mechanisms such as pride, fear, and ego, just to name a few. As a result, people resort to insane behaviours to address mistakes without taking the hit. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 40
If you didn’t hand in the project on time, ask yourself why, before someone else does. You should know yourself best, so why wait until someone else calls you out to scramble to find the answer? Before you answer to your boss, answer to your inner Bawse. You should want to identify the cause of your mistake so that you can understand how to prevent it, not because your supervisor is going to need an explanation. And when you give yourself a reason for why you make a mistake, be real and honest. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 41
No mistake is too big or small to apologize for, and no ego should be too big to make that apology. The biggest mistake you can make is thinking an apology doesn’t matter. And apology indicates that you care and, to be blunt, that you’re a responsible adult - not a six-year-old child. So whether you did something small like forget to respond to an email, or something much larger, like hurt a friend, take the time to deliver an honest apology and explain how you’ll prevent your mistake from happening again in the future. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 42
For most slip-ups in life, it’s easy to find solutions that simply cover up the problems, a cover-up won’t cut it. You need to go beyond blanket solutions and get to the root of the problem. You should know yourself so well that it would be easy to draw an IKEA instruction manual for yourself. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 46
When it comes to understanding our behaviour and why we do the things we do, I believe each of us has a minimum of three layers. Surprise, you’re tiramisu! The top layer consists of how we explain ourselves and our actions to other people. This is the easiest layer of the tiramisu to digest because it’s light and fluffy and makes the dessert look pretty. The middle layer consists of how we explain our actions to ourselves. This layer is a bit heavier and deeper, and oftentimes you can’t see it from the outside because it’s just below the whipped cream. Finally, we reach the bottom layer, which consists of the deeply rooted reasons we actually behave the way we do. This layer is the hardest to find because it’s buried deep within your tiramisu and so you have to push aside all the other layers to discover it. It doesn’t always taste the best and it’s definitely not the prettiest, but it’s the foundation of the entire dessert.
I tell everyone that I don’t want to be in a relationship right now.
Layer 1: What I tell other people
I’m too busy hustling and sipping that #Lemonade that Beyonce served. I don’t need a man. *snaps fingers*
Layer 2: What I tell myself
I love my career way too much and don’t have time to waste on a relationship. That type of commitment would hold me back from achieving my dreams. I don’t want to be tied down.
Layer 3: The actual reason
I don’t know how to have a successful relationship while pursuing my dreams, and so when I sense a potential relationship, I run away. I’m scared a relationship will negatively impact me, regardless of who it’s with.
Layer 4: Down to the ingredients of the tiramisu
I was never exposed to healthy relationships growing up and so I don’t believe they actually exist. I think relationships bring out the worst in people, no matter what.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 46-47
It’s important to note that it’s completely normal to have irrational, deep-rooted thoughts. You shouldn’t feel bad or embarrassed about the lessons you were exposed to grow up. We’re all a little crazy and messed up in our own special way *licks glue*. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 47
A lot of times we're scared to address our inner issues because we don’t think we’ll find a way to fix them. Sometimes solutions can be found with just a little time, effort, and creativity. But at other times our fear is absolutely valid because there isn’t a solution. I’m no naive enough to think that every deep-rooted issue is solvable, but perhaps the only solution is to simply be self-aware. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 48
...it’s important to exercise self-control if you want to complete tasks. But let’s be real - that’s easier said than done. How do you obtain self-control? And how do you continue to work it and make it stronger? After all, there’s a lot of temptation out there to distract you from doing your work, and it’s easier to give in to temptation than to fight it. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 52
Setting goals requires you to work efficiently. Telling yourself that you have to finish something by a certain time or after a certain number of tasks lights a fire under your hustle. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 53
Once you set a goal, it’s important to reward yourself when you hit it. A reward can be a break in between tasks, or you can give yourself a bigger reward for completing all your work at the end of the day. Make sure your rewards are well-earned and reasonable. You don’t want o finish two emails and then allow yourself to take a four-hour nap. That doesn’t make any sense. For example, after writing three chapters today, I’m allowed to watch an hour of Netflix, and therefore I shall type at the speed of light. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 53
Other ideas include:
- Getting your friend to change your social media passwords until you’re done studying
- Letting a friend confiscate your phone until you’re done working
- Getting someone to change your Wifi password until you’re done working out (THE HORROR!) - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 53
You don’t have to suddenly decide to change something in your life to exercise self-control, but you can set challenges for yourself. Think of a habit you’d like to break and give yourself mini training sessions. Here are some ideas:
- If you’re potty-mouthed, don’t swear for 24 hours. If you fail, reset your time.
- If you are a major carnivore, become a vegetarian for two days. If you fail, reset your time.
- If you nibble on your fingers, don’t bite your nails for a day. If you fail, reset your time.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 54
Here’s a little food for thought: If you’re constantly struggling to exercise self-control when it comes to finishing your work, maybe it’s time to question your work. A lot of people ask me how I’m able to work twelve hours straight on a task, and this question always confuses me. I don’t feel like I’m always pushing myself, and that’s because I enjoy what I do. When you like what you do, you’re motivated to keep doing it. In other words, a very basic way of having self-control is to do something you like. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 55
Behind every successful person is a relentless work ethic, the ability to block out distractions, and a well-defined six-pack of self-control. Find creative ways to work your self-control and keep making it stronger. Unlike your abs, this muscle needs to be fit even during the winter, so get to work. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 55
Don’t just try to pass your classes; try to ace them. Don’t just aim to pay your bills; save enough to travel. I don’t want your to write a script just to see a movie get made; I want your to win an Oscar. That’s the difference between settling like a survivor and conquering like a Bawse. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 60
We even have specific days dedicated to loving specific people: anniversaries are for lovers, Mother’s Day is for mothers, Father’s Day is for fathers, and Valentine’s day is for florists. But love shouldn’t just be reserved for other people. First and foremost, you must learn to love yourself. It’s only when you love yourself that you can truly love others. When you don’t love yourself, you will project your insecurities and internal issues onto others, preventing you from ever genuinely seeing them for who they are. In addition, if you don’t love yourself, you’re probably not the happiest version of yourself, and thus you’re unable to love someone to the best of your ability. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 64
You might be wondering, “Okay, honestly, does loving yourself really relate to being a Bawse?” And my response it, “It relates so much that they're basically first cousins.” Loving yourself means you care about yourself. And someone who is well taken care of is more likely to be happy, healthy, and productive. Loving yourself means wanting to make yourself proud. Loving yourself means consoling yourself and encouraging yourself when you face failure, which you inevitably will. And most importantly, loving yourself means that you advocate for yourself, ensuring that you’re treated the way a Baswe should be treated. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 65
I didn’t always love myself. I had to fall in love with myself, and it was a really awkward first date. There I was, depressed and wanting to end my life, unmotivated, and scared. When you’re all alone, not by force but by choice, because you don’t feel any desire to be around anyone, the only person you have to rely on is yourself. I don’t know what caused me to do it, nor do I know how I convinced myself to, but on one of my worst nights, I started to hug myself. I felt so sorry for myself and for how I was feeling. I could almost see myself as a character in a movie, and my natural reaction was to wrap my arms around myself. After all, that’s what you do when you see someone who’s sad, right? I hugged myself to sleep and survived the night. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 65
What finally got me out of my depression was learning what loving myself really meant. I didn’t understand I deserved to be happy. I thought I was meant to be sad, and so I remained sad. But that’s not how you treat someone you love. You’re not okay when they’re sad. You work hard to make them happy. Once I started doing that, I started to rebuild my life.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 65
When we’re dealing with difficult situations we tend to think about how our actions will affect others. If I make this decision, how will my mom feel? How will my husband feel? How will it affect my brother? Will anyone be mad? It’s great to consider other people’s feelings, but don’t forget that you’re also a person who deserved to be considered. It’s essential for your to stop and think about how something makes YOU feel. Then you can make a decision based on EVERYONE you love. That’s the difference between being selfish and loving yourself. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 66
People often ask me if I have a clone - how do I manage to get so much done? A true Bawse is able to get a LOT done in one day, and as a result, people can’t help but wonder, “Do they sleep?” I get that question a lot. The answer is yes, I sleep. I love sleep. But when I’m awake, I’m awake 2.0. That means I treat my waking hous like I’m making up for the time I’ve spent asleep. I want to do so much in a day that when my head hits the pillow at night, I’m exhaused and feel I’ve earned the right to catch some z’s. Many people I admire all share this quality, this relentless work ethic that allows them to complete tasks back to back througout their day. My friends always joke that they need to pretend to be doing work around me in order to keep up. I’m not telling you this to brag (although, heyyy); I’m telling you because I’m now going to let you in on what keeps me going. The key to hustling hard is to pause. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 70
That’s the result of going and going and going and not giving yourself a moment to pause and reflect on why you’re even going in the first place. The reason I “go” is because I crave amazing life experiences. My most prized accomplishments have nothing to do with money or status and everything to do with meeting cool people and experiencing unique things in different places around the world. Yet there I was, having an amazing experience but yearning for my bed. What a sad thing it is to work so hard and yet be unable to enjoy the fruits of your labour. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 72
It used to be that when people would accomplish something amazing, they would enjoy the moment and celebrate with friends and family. Today when you accomplish something great, it’s a failure unless you capture it on Snapchat (bonus points if you’re using the puppy filter!). That’s whack. As someone who has a career built around social media, I love capturing big moments and I encourage you to do so as well. BUT not at the expense of enjoying the moment in real time. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 74
When I meet people I admire, I take ten minutes out of my day to think about the meeting, smile about it, and fangirl. If I win an award, I will go through the rounds of speeches, media, and celebrations, but then I will sit by myself and hold the trophy for a few minutes in silence. If I want to continue working as hard as possible, I need to FEEL and truly EXPERIENCE the fruits of my labour. Inspiration fuels the hustle, and what better inspiration than enjoying the results of your hard work? Don’t cheat yourself by blazing through your life. Reflection is necessary and should be on your to-do list. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 75
Being a Bawse requires you not only to make great decisions that will help you achieve your goals but also to commit to those decisions regardless of the obstacles you will face. The two most common obstacles are usually fear and distraction.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 82
Aside from beating my chest, pumping myself up, and humming the Rocky theme music, I say something very specific: “Fear and nervousness are nowhere on the path to success.” I then hold up my left index finger and say, “You are here right now.” I lift my right index finger, hold it apart from the left one, and say, “This is the goal.” When I look at my reflection in the mirror, I can see that the space between my two fingers is filled with nothing but air. There is no fear, nervousness, or distraction in that space. I suggest you try this the next time you have to do something scary, because most of the obstacles we face are the ones we make up in our minds. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 86
Temptations to slack off will always be there, and that will never change. What has to change is your ability to deal with temptation. To be successful, you need to be able to look FOMO in the eyes and say NO. In response, FOMO will stand there, pout, and throw a temper tantrum, but you have to be strong and hold your ground. The only way to overcome FOMO is to recognize that the joy of accomplishing goals is much greater than the disappointment of missing out on a little fun. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 90
So pay close attention to the good grade you got when you studied instead of partied. Don’t just let that moment pass. Really take it in a think about how it makes you feel. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 92
Make a list of your accomplishments and recognize how you achieved them. Focusing on your work moves you closer to reaching your goals. That is a fact. Keep training your brain to pay attention to how rewarding it is to work hard. Soon you’ll stop worrying about what parties you missed, and you’ll develop a hustler’s FOMO: the fear of missing out on accomplihment. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 93
So the next time you’re faced with FOMO (and I promise you, there will be a next time), as yourself one question: “What will my future self thank me for doing today?” Once you answer that question, shut up, work hard, and go accomplish your goals. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 93
Inspiration is the fuel for your hustle. It runs through our inner engine and gives us the drive (see what I did there?) to get from our starting point to the accomplishment of our goals. Just like a car, when you’re running low on inspiration you need to refuel to get to your final destination. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 96
Spontaneous inspiration is one of the greatest surprises that can happen in your day, but if it doesn’t, don’t be discouraged. I’ve become a big believer in scheduling inspiration. For me, that means proactively orchestrating events that will help make me feel inspired. I don’t want my hustle to rely solely on spontaneous events, so I take matters into my own hands. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 97
Watching Game of Thrones inspired me to think about my own content differently. Suddenly I had new ideas, I was paying more attention to one-liners in my own script, and I was increasing the production value of my shoots. Watching the show wasn’t JUST helping me relax - it was also helping me become better at my craft. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 97
In addition to watching shows, I also schedule inspiration by taking breaks from my work and using that time to watch interviews of people I admire. If I’m struggling to write a comedy script, I’ll watch an interview with Rebel Wilson or Amy Schumer. If I’m struggling to write lyrics, I’ll watch an interview with Nicki Minaj or Drake. I think there’s something so inspirational about hearing about other people’s experiences and what drives them. It’s almost like they’re lending you some of their fuel or giving you a boost with spiritual jumper cables. Hearing someone so accomplished talk about their struggles and successes has definitely become crucial inspirational fuel for me. Therefore, I make time to watch a decent number of interviews every week. It’s my version of taking a break in a meaningful way - a productive break, if you will. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 98
When you’re sick, you get into bed and allow yourself to heal. When your hustle is not feeling well, you should prescribe it some inspiration and do the same. I canceled my plans that night because my hustle needed healing. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 99
Every day you can close your eyes and imagine all the things you want. A Bawse doesn’t just know what they want for Christmas; they know what they want from life. They have visions. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 102
There is great power in knowing what you want and even greater power in pretending it’s already yours. Combine that with a strong work ethic, and Christmas can come more than once a year. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 105
A Bawse does not let anything stop them from aiming high. I ask crazy things of my team all the time and I won’t accept anyone telling me something is “unrealistic.” Don’t give up before you even try. I refuse to believe something can’t happen until I’m flat-out told NO. To be honest, sometimes even after hearing NO I still don’t believe it can’t be done. Why? Because I’m relentlessly determined. And you know what? It’s worked out great for me so far. It’s fine to push for what you want, as long as you’re charming and polite about it.
If you aim low, you’ll end up lower than you intended. That’s why you have to aim high. No one else is going to compensate for your lack of ambition. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 110
Of course what I’m suggesting is risky, not to mention terrifying, but if you’re willing to work for your dream, lost sleep for it, and give 200 percent for it, then put all your eggs in one basket and make the basket golden.
So what do you want to do? Who do you want to become? Where do you want to work? Whatever your answer is, make that your Plan A and don’t clutter your mind with three other plans that are backups. Your mind, energy, and time need to be united for your Plan A to work. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 117
People often say “words lie and actions speak the truth.” I used to think that was a great saying, but then I heard a motivational speaker by the name of Trant Shelton say something even better. He said, “Words lie; actions can lie too. Consistency speaks the truth.” My jaw dropped at the accuracy of these words. Talking about something doesn’t make it true. And action is only meaningful if it’s consistent. A Bawse knows that if you want to be taken seriously, you need to show people who you are, and then keep showing them. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 121
Whenever you’re doing in life, whether you’re a doctor, painter, student, or lemonade stand owner, it’s important to know the game so that you can excel at playing it. One of the best ways to do this is to become aware of what everyone else in the same field is doing. Not only does this give you the ability to learn from other people’s successes and mistakes, but it also encourages healthy competition, which is necessary for evolution. In addition, knowing the other players in the game can help you adjust your strategy accordingly, just like a coach who studies the formations and plays of an opposing team. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 124
I absorbed all the information around me and used it to develop my own strategy. I wanted to make sure that whatever I offered was not only up to par but different from what was already out there. If you’re trying to set yourself apart, you need to know what has already been done. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 125
Sometimes to be inspired, successful, or supported you need to sit in a car on the side of the road for three hours. Other times you might have to be that crazy lady carrying a huge painting. Maybe it’ll be worth it or maybe it won't be. Either way, you keep climbing like a Bawse. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 133
We’re always trying to look for shortcuts. It’s in our nature. I don’t have to unlock my phone to take a picture because I can just swipe up. When my GPS can save me sixty seconds on the road, it’ll reroute me. Worst-case scenario, if I do have to unlock my phone (annoying!), then I can just scan my finger because who has time to input four numbers? I don’t even have to type a full sentence when TXTING b/c abbreviations are v easy 2 understand FYI and acceptable AF BTW. Who has time to meet new people and establish meaningful relationships? Instead, I can just swipe left or right on your image and let superficial computing do the work. Shortcuts save us time and energy; let’s face it, they’re convenient. However, a Bawse knows that shortcuts do not exist when it comes to success. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 136
Hear me when I say you MUST start climbing and do the work. No ifs, ands, or buts. Remember all those things you had a major project to finish and you just started at it, thinking, “What if I get a doctor’s note?” All right, great, you faked a stomachache and got a note. Now what? You still have to do the assignment. Then you think, “Maybe I’ll just copy off a friend.” Your teacher caught you and now you have to do the assignment again. No matter how many times you stare at this project, it’s not going anywhere. Why? Because you just need to buckle down and do the work. There is no other way, so stop wasting time convincing yourself there is. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 137
Working hard feels good. Of course it’s exhausting and stressful and causes you to miss a party or two, but at the end of the day it is so rewarding. One of the best feelings in the world is when you know that luck didn’t play a role in your success. Doing work eliminated the need for luck. I’m not lucky, I just took the stairs. And you should too. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 139
When I decided to take control of my own life and become an entrepreneur, no one was around to tell me what to do when to do it. With that reality came a beautiful freedom. And with that freedom came the possibility of making bad choices. If it was a random Monday and I wanted to sleep the entire day, no one was going to stop me. I quickly learned taht I had to be my own boss and set deadlines for myself, or I would go nowhere fast. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 143
As you can imagine, creating deadlines takes a huge amount of self-control, and that’s why sometimes you have to force them upon yourself. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 143
For larger projects or goals such as “open my own restaurant” or “write a movie script,” it’s harder to set just one deadline. Instead, it may be smarter to break to goal down into small pieces and assign each of those pieces a specific deadline. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 144
For example, instead of saying that you are going to “write a movie script,” break your goal down into smaller, more manageable pieces, such as “create a log line,” “finish character outline,” “create mood board,” etc. If you need to force yourself to stick to those deadlines, set meetings with partners or friends and commit to sharing your ideas with them on a certain date. Deadlines are always easier to follow when they’re public and you’re held accountable for them. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 144
Think of something you’ve been wanting to do for a long time but have never gotten around to. I want you to take a second and look deep inside yourself. Do you REALLY want to accomplish this task? Are you willing to work your absolute hardest for it? Are you willing to acknowledge that your hardest isn’t your hardest, and then work even harder than that? If the answer is yes, grab a calendar and set a deadline. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 144
Of course some things in life are very important, but a Bawse understands that no one thing should make or break you. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 148
In other words, if one opportunity will make or break your success, then your idea of success isn’t solid enough to begin with. Even if you get the job, ace the test, or kill the sales pitch, you can’t bank your entire success on one achievement. Your success shouldn’t walk on stilts. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 148
After waiting for the keys to the moon several times, I’ve learned that a super-cool collaboration isn’t ever going to be the thing that “makes” my career. Instead, my career is the sum of everything I do. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 149
Next week I post two more videos and the previous one is forgotten. I wouldn’t have much of a YouTube channel if one bad video caused the entire thing to collapse. That’s the position I want to be in, one that allows for mistakes and growth in equal measure. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 149
My empire is made up of my YouTube channel, my book, my collaborations, my social campaigns, and my partnerships.
Having said all this, I’m not suggesting you should approach important opportunities with nonchalance. You should always give 110 percent of your energy and effort. But at the same time you want to be in a position where you cannot be impacted so easily. You can be the ruler of a strong empire but still have the mentality of a hunger hustler. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 151
So if you find yourself stressing over one opportunity or one failure, perhaps the real problem is the foundation you’ve built. A Bawse cannot walk the walk if the ground is crumbling beneath them. You need to strengthen your empire. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 151
Here’s the thing, though. There is no correct way of liging life. Similarly, there’s no path that leads to success. A Bawse knows that there are many different pathways to every destination in life, and just because you’ve only been given one set of directions, that doesn’t mean ten other roads don’t all lead to the same place. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 155
My career on YouTube was actually paving a new pathway to the same end goal. You see, the audition process is very gruelling and competitive. There can be ten people who are all great for a role and yet someone is chosen over the others for reasons no one will ever really understand. Looks, height, weight, accent, ethnicity - all of these characteristics can factor into the decision. My success on YouTube gives me something special, and that is a following. When I walk into an audition, the casting agent knows that I bring a very large online audience with me and that my audience is ready to support me in my future projects. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 155
...my success on YouTube does allow me to take a path less frequently walked. My loyal following has gotten me into meetings with Mindy Kaling and whitney Cummings. Auditioning didn’t get me into those rooms; my online presence did. Mindy discovered my videos online and she liked my work. That’s what got me in to see her. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 156
Think about where you want to get in life, what you want to achieve, and where you want to be years from now. Now think about the directions you’ve been given to get there. I want you to pretend like there is an earthquake and the roads between you and your goal are cracking. How are you going to get to your destination? Find two or three more paths that all lead to the same place. That’s how you should view the road map to success. It’s not a straight line, but a loopy, curvy maze that resembles one of those puzzles on the back of a cereal box.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 156
Life is sort of like Mario Kart, and every day we play a different level. We wake up and race through the day, trying to reach the final destination, but we’re bombarded by little nuisances at every turn. In Mario Kart these nuisances are banana peels, oil spills, shells, hidden bombs, and bouncing fireballs. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 166
So, how do you avoid these little banana peels throughout your day? You take preventative measures to ensure that the banana peels you slipped on today are tossed into the compost for tomorrow. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 167
Failure doesn’t necessarily mean the end of an idea or project. When things don’t go the way we anticipate, it’s easy to feel like we have to start over, but that’s not always the case. Just because one door has closed, it doesn’t mean it can’t be knocked down or forced back open. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 172
A Bawse knows that, yes, sometimes failure does indeed mean starting over. But a Bawse also knows that other times failure can be moulded into unexpected success. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 172
To take failure and turn it on its head, to make something unexpected out of it, is a beautiful thing. I could have abandoned the #GirlLove Challenge. I could have let my depression take me down a path that led nowhere. But instead I decided to get my hands dirty with some Play-Doh and create something new. Often we’re too busy being disappointed or upset to recognize that the tools we need to create a new masterpiece are right in front of us. They just require a little rearranging and assembly. Don’t let disappointment blind you to potential. Roll up your sleeves, use your creativity as glue, and mould your success. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 175
Within forty-eight hours I go from being a superstar to “Lilly, right?” sometimes it’s even within the same day. In the digital space I’m considered a star, but in Hollywood I’m just another person waiting to audition. I’ve learned that success is one area of your life doesn't guarantee or entitle you to success in another. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 178
It’s also a matter of respecting a different ladder and everyone on it. The climb up any ladder teaches you lessons and provides you with the necessary experiences. If I went from the top of my current ladder to the top of another ladder, I would have no clue what was below me. I would be inexperienced and probably fall to my death. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 179
No matter who you are, there is going to be something you want to do that will require you to start from the bottom. That shouldn’t scare you because you’re a Bawse and you thrive on challenges. You don’t feel entitled to success - you feel empowered to earn it. So earn it, again and again. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 179
Well, I’m here to tell you two things: (1) you’re special and (2) you’re not special.
You’re special because you are a unique individual possessing a set of characteristics that no one else in the world has. Even if you have an identical twin born four minutes after you (in which case you should probably hug your mother’s uterus on a daily basis), there is still no one in the world exactly like you - and that makes you special. But that specialness goes away if you do not do anything with your unique characteristics. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 186
Millennials in particular have been raised in an environment that validates them left and right and makes them feel entitled to success and great things. Instead of working hard to achieve success, some of them have grown up under the illusion that success should automatically be granted to them. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 186
A Bawse knows that if they’re going to feel validated, it should happen only when they accomplish goals or contribute to society. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of feeling special for no reason, especially since validation feels so good. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 187
I treat feedback the way teachers treat standardized tests: you cut off the highest and lowest outliers and don’t let them impact the overall score. The greatest feedback and worst feedback are both dangerous in their own way. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 188
Validation is temporary, and a Bawse thinks long-term. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 189
Don’t get me wrong, you should definitely celebrate when you accomplish something great. Celebrating yourself is an important part of loving yourself. But be aware of getting validated without reasons my hustle is so raging is that my mother keeps her validations locked away in a chest that she only occasionally opens. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 189
Participation ribbons are for country fairs, not life. You don’t get one for being born. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 189
Like I would with a newborn, I nurture my ideas, help them grow, and hope that someday they will become something great. When my ideas are young and can barely walk on their own, they keep me up at night. Similarly, when my ideas grow old, I realize I can’t hold on to them anymore and need to let them go. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 192
Being the dumbest person on your team doesn’t make you a stupid person; it means you’re smart enough to select people to work with that you can learn from. It also means checking your ego and being okay with the fact that you aren’t the best at something. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 199
What good would it be to surround yourself with smarter people if you can’t learn from them? There seems to be this universal fear of “looking stupid” or “something dumb.” Who is dumber, the person who pretends they know everything, or the person who doesn't and asks questions? Wasting an opportunity to learn seems pretty dumb to me. It’s difficult though, to let go of the idea that people may view you as “stupid.” - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 199
Doing a good job should be more important than how you look. With that lesson in mind, I created a rule for myself: if you don’t understand something, ask questions until you do understand it. And I mean REALLY understand it. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 200
“People always say that if you’re the smartest person in the room, then you’re in the wrong room. Looking around, I can definitely say that I’m absolutely in the correct room, because you’re all so talented and inspirational.” At the end of the day, you can’t learn new things if you’re always the one giving the lessons. You need to be around people who challenge you, intimidate you, and teach you new things. Being a Bawse isn’t always about being the best; it’s about placing yourself in the best situations. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 201
If I’m always in rooms that are overly comfortable, then I’m in the wrong rooms. The only way you can become smarter is by giving yourself a chance to be dumb sometimes. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 201
...you are never too good to stop investing in yourself. We live in a constantly evolving environment, so we need to evolve and grow. Your best today may not be enough next year, so keep developing. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 204
You’re never so good at anything that you can stop putting energy into getting better. Some of the top actors in the industry still have acting coaches, choreographers still take dance classes, and The Rock still has a personal trainer. He could probably personally lift a train, but he still chooses to work with a trainer. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 205
So what I’ll say is this: rules are important MOST of the time. But there are other times when you should eff protocol. Think about it. If everyone followed protocol all the time, no one would ever do something for the first time. Nothing would change. No one would stand out - or stand up to injustice. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 210
Well, here’s the thing: a Bawse doesn’t need to always do things the way they’re traditionally done. A Bawse does things however they need to be done, by any means necessary. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 213
One of the most identifiable qualities of a Bawse is their energy. Something about them stands out and leaves a lasting impression on people. They are not easily overlooked and forgotten. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 216
Live in the Moment: The best way to have presence is to be present (MIND = BLOWN). This means that when you’re at an event or talking to someone, be there entirely. Don’t constantly check your phone or be thinking about something else. Instead, take in your surroundings, meet new people, be interested in what’s going on and absorb the energy of the room. Not only will you probably have a better time, but you’ll appear more approachable. No one wants to approach someone who is scrolling through Instagram stalking their ex. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 218
Body language can often speak louder than words. Crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets will make you seem unapproachable. If you aren’t directly facing someone while they are talking to you, it will seem like you’re not paying full attention. Slouching makes you seem less confident. Walking slowly can make you seem less certain. Whenever you do anything with your body, I want you to feel purposeful and powerful. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 221
My camera roll was full of conversation screenshots until I learned one important lesson, and that is: say what you mean. If you say what you mean, you don’t need someone to edit your words. Your feelings are authentic to you and therefore don’t need revision. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 224
The same idea applies when you run into someone you haven’t seen in a while and they end the conversation with “Let’s grab a coffee soon. I’ll text you!” We both know I’m never getting that text, but it sounds polite to say it. However, it’s actually no polite because it’s not sincere. A Bawse doesn’t make empty gestures; a Bawse says what they actually mean. A better response would be “It was really nice seeing you. Hope I run into you again.” That sounds just as polite, but it’s not filled with fake fluff. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 224
Communication should be relatively easy, but we often make things complicated by not saying what we mean. We convince ourselves that we need to sugarcoat things to such a degree that our actual message ends up buried in sprinkles. Or we beat around the bush and people have to solve a puzzle to understand what we’re saying. I believe you can be both charming and straightforward. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 225
I’m also a big believer in the phrase “Say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.” B
Being straightforward doesn’t mean you have to be rude or harsh. There’s always a way to be open and honest while also being respectful. Anyone who behaves otherwise is just being lazy. This mentality is particularly helpful when you need to confront someone. To be honest, I’ve never been any good when it comes to confrontation, but the more I focus on saying what I Actually mean, the easier it gets. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 225
What we need to remember is that priorities are like opinions, because everyone has different one. AND, most importantly, priorities are not facts. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 234
If you start a business with a partner and your personal goals are to do a lot of charity and social work, you may run into issues if your co-worker just wants to make a lot of money. Does wanting to make it big make him wrong? No. Some people want to be rich. Others want o make a social impact. Maybe both of your priorities will change and completely switch later in life, but for the moment they’re different. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 236
I’m expecting [Selena Gomez’s] response to be a giggle or smile alongside an obligatory “thanks,” but instead she calmly says, “It’s so raw and beautiful.” I can’t remember a time when someone spoke to me with that self awareness and confidence. She truly believed the cover was beautiful, and so she said it. I think many of us don’t own our own beauty because we fear sounding arrogant. But not Sel. She knows that calling yourself beautiful can be empowering, not necessarily cocky. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 241
I’ve changed in the years since I’ve gotten to know her. I understand the different between being yourself and being unapologetically yourself on a deeper level. Beyond the weird quirks and self-deprecating jokes I make in interviews, I’m learning to accept all facets of myself. If I’m upset and make a poor decision, I try not to be ashamed. I made that decision. My unique personality and life circumstances helped make that decision, and even if I have to fix whatever mess I caused, I own that decision. If I feel jealous or insecure, I embrace that side of me and proudly communicate it. That’s my insecurity and jealousy, and it’s who I am in that moment. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 243
What stood out to me was his behaviour around people he just met - in this case, my film crew. He shakes every person’s hand when he meets them. And when I say everyone, I mean everyone - from my sound gut to my producer, my assistant, and the security guard who is trying to pry me off Dwayne’s leg. Which, by the way, stop that and LET ME LIVE. Rock climbing has always been on my bucket list! - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 246
For someone as rich and famous as Dwayne Johnson, I was shocked that he made a point to introduce himself to every new person he met, even if they didn’t initiate the interaction. He acted as if people didn’t know exactly who he was, which was both refreshing and impressive. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 246
Now, you can call it a coincidence, but three of the most successful people I’ve ever met have all had this distinctive tendency. Not only do they introduce themselves, but they extend a hand to new people because they understand that a good handshake can say a lot about who you are. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 247
Before sitting down, I went around the room and introduced myself to the writer, the assistant, the sound technician, the camera man, and the security guard. I was shaking what my mamma gave me - and that’s my hand. I got more stares and shocked looks in that moment than all the other times I’ve shaken other things my mamma gave me. I’m serious. What? I like to have fun. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 248
The way I see it, it’s on you to create great opportunities. Whenever you meet someone for the first time, you have the opportunity to make a killer first impression and ensure they remember you. So you have two options. You can walk into a room and blend in with the crowd. I mean, this is cool too, you know, if you want to be all those other characters in a Where’s Waldo? book that people skim over. Or before you enter a room, you can take a deep breath and commit to making a great impression. Yes, it takes a lot of energy and time to make people feel important and valued. And to that I respond, “Boo-effing-hoo.” You’re a Bawse now, and you need to spend less energy stalking your ex on Instagram and more energy making phenomenal first impressions. Plus, there are so many famous puppies in Instagram now who are way cuter than your ex. Get your priorities straight. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 248
I don’t know why you broke up or whose fault it was, if anyone’s. But I do know that if someone is no longer in your life by choice, then they are not right for you. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 252
And you know what they say: you are what you eat. So when you talk crap about people, guess what you’re feeding your brain? A nice big plate of crap with no fries on the side. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 268
Isn’t it such a shame that we have this amazing piece of machinery inside our skulls that is capable of so many amazing things, but we often use it to gossip about other people? Thomas Edison’s brain invented the lightbulb, and so I find it disrespectful when we use our brains to talk about how we dislike what the Kardashians are wearing. What a waste of a miracle. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 268
You know that being a Bawse entails climbing a ladder, or several ladders. When you reach the top, it’s important to recognize that you’re never truly at the top. There will always be a higher power that can throw you off the ladder at any time. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 274
It’s easy to get caught up in all the praise. You will begin to think you’re untouchable, but believing in a higher power keeps your ego in check. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 274
Supporting people means encouraging them, providing them with advice, and maybe even giving them a boost to start. But it doesn’t mean that you let them work less hard. Giving people a free ride means you’re giving them the fruits of your labour without them having to work for it. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 278
Side note: When you hit a certain level of success, a lot of people from your past will convince themselves that they’ve always supported you. Maybe they have, but they just never communicated it to you. Or showed you. Of did anything, really. But now that you’re doing well, they feel some type of entitled pride and ownership. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 278
True success is built upon a strong foundation. If someone wants to use you as their escalator to success, they won’t build themselves a solid foundation. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 279
Everything you encounter on your journey to becoming a Bawse is essential for you to succeed. Every all-nighter, financial investment, and milestone reached help shape who you are. In the same way, another sharp turns in the road. A Bawse should respect the art of hustling and make sure it doesn’t become extinct. If everyone who worked hard gave all the slackers a handout, the art of the hustle would die. Support those who work hard. The hustle depends on it. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 281
Bullying is still bullying even if the victim is a famous millionaire. There is no justification for thinking it’s okay to make fun of a celebrity. A list of justifications I often hear people use include:
They don’t have problems - they’re rich.
They’ll never see it.
They are horrible and deserve it.
- Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 285
If you stay true to your values in public and then ditch them when no one is looking, then you don’t have values, you have showpieces. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 285
When I’m having a hard time staying true to my values, I can literally feel it in my soul. I can feel that I’m doing things I don’t believe in, and I feel messy and dirty inside. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 286
Remember all those pointless math problems you had to solve in math class? Well, unlike those, figuring out your values actually matters. You’re not trying to solve for the value of x or y; instead, you’re trying to solve for a meaningful life. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 287
Have you ever met a person who was positive? I haven’t. That’s because people who aren’t nice exude negative energy. When you’re nice to people, you take control of the energy surrounding you. You are creating a positive environment that will help you be successful (and happy). Not being nice is like poisoning yourself with bad vibes. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 291
...yet we probably treat our iPhones better than we do some of the people in our lives. So if being nice doesn’t innately make you feel good or you don’t care about humanity, realize that even for the most selfish hustler, being nice to people is essential when it comes to receiving opportunities. People will seldom work with someone who is horrible to be around. - Lilly Singh, How to be a bawse, p. 291